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It's Time To Implement Some Dating Rules

February 21, 2017

Rules suck. I have never been that person that follows every single rule because that makes life super boring. But this whole dating thing is still so new to me that I think I need to set some rules for at least right now.

A little background on me: I'm 34 and was married for almost six years. I recently found myself single again. It's been about ten years since I'd been in the single world and now with online dating and all of these APPs, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed. 

The problem with dating in 2017 is that people aren't 100% real in their online dating profiles. Sure, on his Plenty of Fish profile it may say he's looking for something long term. But this same guy is on Ok Cupid and looking for just casual sex. I find it hard enough to keep up with one dating site and cannot see how people are working multiples. I will tell you this, the same fish in the POF sea are also on Ok Cupid. They likely have the same profile names, photos, and the about me section is probably the same BS too. 

So what are some simple rules I have decided to implement since starting this new journey about a month ago?

1.It’s not a date unless we share a meal together. And breakfast the morning after we got drunk and hooked up doesn’t count.

2. Pre-dates like a quick meet up for a coffee are 100% acceptable just to test if you want to spend a more prolonged amount of time with this person on a real date. 

3. If you want to see me again, make some plans for a few days from now. But asking me to “hang out” or me asking the guy to “hang out” after 9 pm only means it’s going to be a booty call.

4. Rule number 2 doesn’t apply if rule number 1 has been met.

5. Texting is great and super convenient when we are both busy. But I’m an old school chick and will need to have some phone conversations.

6. When asking me out, don’t do it via text. See rule number 4.

7. If I make an attempt to see you three times and you’re too busy, it’s like baseball, three strikes and you’re out.

8. I will not let this game playing junk that is online dating turn me into exactly what I hate about these sites/apps, a player!

9. Think twice before giving out your phone number because some people can be annoying.

10. If you want to give out your number to a bunch of guys from online, get a google voice number to make it easier on yourself. No one wants to change their number over some wacko you met online.

Life is too short to waste time with someone who doesn’t really want to spend time with you for the right reasons.

Do these seem completely absurd?  Like I said, I am not good with following rules, but I am going to try my damnedest because I deserve a nice, respectful guy!