10 Ways You May Be Micro-Cheating

Do you think these cross the line?

October 3, 2019
Sly boyfriend using mobile in bed

Dating and relationships are hard in 2019. There are so many bad things people do like ghosting, breadcrumbing, and love bombing. These are all fairly new trends that have hit the dating world since online dating and dating APPs became so popular. 

Micro-cheating was a new term that got a lot of attention back in 2018. The sad thing about micro-cheating is you probably have already been a victim of it or have done it without realizing. 

What is it? It's essentially flirting with someone behind your partner's back. It goes a bit further than that though. It's doing things to show that you have interest in someone else outside of your relationship. It's like putting the feelers out there to see if this person also is interested. 

The best way I could describe micro-cheating is putting a toe in the water to give it a test. So it's not simple flirting. I think we can all agree that no matter what our relationship status is we flirt with other people through out the day. Maybe it's your work spouse or the guy at the coffee shop. The difference between this flirtation and the kind with micro-cheating is that it's innocent and has no motive behind it. Micro-cheaters behavior is deceptive and secretive. Hmmm, I think my ex-husband was a micro-cheater among other things.

People who micro-cheat are looking for validation and attention from someone other than their partner. Here are a few scenarios that would be considered micro-cheating.

1. Logging a girl in his contacts folder under a code name to avoid detection when she call, texts, and emails.

2. Obsessively checking another girl’s social media feeds and getting way more excited about the non-girlfriend’s posts than he does about his significant other’s.

3. Having a "work wife" or "work husband.

4. Deleting apps like Tinder from your phone, but not deleting your account.

5. Following an ex on social media.

6. Getting together with someone, and claiming it's work-related when it isn't.

7. Using flirty emojis like kiss faces, hearts, winks.

8. Sharing a secret or confiding in someone you're attracted to rather than your partner.

9. Communicating with an ex.

10. Sexting with someone other boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/partner. 

I think some of these aren't 100% micro-cheating. Is following an ex on social media really that bad? Or how about communicating with an ex? Both are harmless unless you have intentions of it becoming something more. If your intentions are shady or you are hiding this person from your partner, you are likely micro-cheating. 

There are some more examples of micro-cheating below.