4 Dating Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

These are huge warning signs!

August 13, 2019

The dating world seems to get more and more bizarre as the years go by. Twenty years ago we were a lot more picky about who we'd date, and now it seems that we've loosened up a lot. 

There should be a lot of deal breakers in dating. Things like criminal records, bad hygiene, the fact that someone is married should be huge red flags. But sadly, people are more accepting of these things. Why are we settling? Maybe some of us don't see the red flags when they first present themselves in the beginning? Or perhaps we all need to take off the rose-colored glasses and really look at the person we are dating!

A study came out recently about the crazy red flags people ignore. You'd think that finding out someone is a convicted murderer would be a huge turn-off, but that's not that case for some daters. 17% of men and 10% of women say they'd date someone who was convicted of murder. 3% of men and 2% of women would do it no questions asked. 14% of men and 8% of women would need a reasonable explanation. My mind is blown, seriously!

As for dating someone who's married, that too is not off the table for a decent amount of people. 32% of men and 23% of women would date someone who's married.

58% of men say it's not a deal-breaker if the woman had a DUI. Women, on the other hand, were a bit pickier, but still, 48% would be a-ok with this.

16% of men and 12% of women would date someone convicted of ATTEMPTED murder. What the what?!?!?

So what are some other things that could be a huge red flag?

1. The person drinks way too much on a date! If you can't control your alcohol intake the first time you meet someone how will you be the second and third time? Also, they shouldn't be pressuring you to drink more than you feel comfortable.

2. They treat the server, bartender, or other wait staff like garbage! This has been proven time and time again that if someone is not nice to the server, that shows an issue with their personality. 

3. The ask you to meet for the first time at their place or a non-public place! People can be whoever they want to be online. Unless you have an actual connection with them like they are a family friend or a friend of a friend, you really shouldn't trust them one-hundred percent. If someone is trying to get you to come to their place for the first date, I think you can assume they have other things on their mind. Meet somewhere that's well lit with plenty of other people around just in case this person turns out to be a creeper. 

4. They don't take no for answer and try to push you! If they want to order a second drink and you say you don't want one, that should be good enough. If they are trying to push you to drink more, stay out longer, or get physical when you don't want to, this is a huge red flag, It shows that they do not respect you and your wishes and cannot maintain boundaries set by others. 

My rule of thumb is to try and get the most information you can about the person before you meet and do some research. There's nothing wrong with being a Google detective or doing a background check on someone.