Are You a "Micro-Cheater"?

What's this new term all about?

May 9, 2018

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Dating and relationships are hard in 2018. There are so many bad things people do like ghosting, breadcrumbing, and love bombing. These are all fairly new trends that have hit the dating world since online dating and dating APPs became so popular. 

Now there's a new term for 2018 that has everyone talking. It's called micro-cheating. The sad thing about micro-cheating is you probably have already been a victim of it or have done it without realizing. 

What is it? It's essentially flirting with someone behind your partner's back. It goes a bit further than that though. It's doing things to show that you have interest in someone else outside of your relationship. It's like putting the feelers out there to see if this person also is interested. 

So it's not simple flirting. I think we can all agree that no matter what our relationship status is we flirt with other people through out the day. Maybe it's your work spouse or the guy at the cofffee shop. The difference between this flirtation and the kind with micro-cheating is that it's innocent and has no motive behind it. Micro-cheaters behavior is deceptive and secretive. Hmmm, I think my ex-husband was a micro-cheater amongst other things. 

People who micro-cheat are looking for validation and attention from someone other than their partner. Here are a few scenarios that would be considered micro-cheating.

1. Logging a girl in his contacts folder under a code name to avoid detection when she call, texts, and emails.

2. Obsessively checking another girl’s social media feeds and getting way more excited about the non-girlfriend’s posts than he does about his significant other’s.

Get 31 other ways someone can micro-cheat here. 

So why do we do it? Is it because we aren't getting that validation or attention from our partner? Is there something missing in the relationship and we want to find it elsewhere?