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Submarining is the New Dating Trend to Hate

Can we just stop with all the games?

September 28, 2017

Dating in 2017 is hard. We live in a World where we can get anything we want almost instantly. It seems a lot of people are always looking for the next best thing and are never satisfied with what they have. 

These trends apply in the dating World too! If you are happily married or coupled up, you're lucky. I explored the online dating scene for a few months earlier this year, and my experiences were pretty bad. You meet someone online and then go on a few dates. Everything seems to be going well and bam, you just never hear from the person again. Instead of them telling you they met someone else or they didn't feel a connection, they just disappear. 

I'm sure you've heard a lot of talk about people being ghosted. The sad thing is it happens in other areas of life like job hunting and even with friends. But now there's a crapy behavior in the dating world that takes ghosting to a whole new level. 

It's something called submarining! This is when someone ghosts you and randomly reappears with a call or text as if nothing ever happened. 

But here's what happened. They met someone else or decided to focus their attention on finding someone else, and they ghosted you. But after weeks or months, they try to come crawling back to get back into your good graces because whatever they had going on didn't work out for them. 

I'm sorry, but once you ghost me I am done with you. There's no "hey what's up" text or something else witty that will spark my attention again.